Last night, my husband got an email from a boy. Not just any boy, but the nice son of my friend K. The one who patiently took my 3 year old a dozen times through the penguin house at Sea World. The kind of boy we all dream that our daughters will be lucky enough to meet someday.
He's been #1's Facebook friend for close to a year now. I know her mom, we have children the same ages who are all homeschooled...it just seemed like a natural thing to let them chat with each other as a reward for finishing Algebra assignments. (We all need a reward at the end of the day if we've finished Algebra.)
This boy wrote to introduce himself to my husband. He listed all his credentials...Catholic, homeschooled, 9 years as an altar server, etc. and then told her father "that he promises" that their conversations will not "pose any problems whatsoever." He then asked my husband if it was okay that he continue emailing her and occasionally calling her. (They live 8 hours away, there will be little if no "face to face" time.)
My husband stared at the computer screen completely flabbergasted. "He's asking my permission to write to my daughter? Who does that any more?" he asked me.
"Boys who respect your daughter," I told him.
He thought about it for a moment and then remarked that they are very young, but even if this doesn't ever go anywhere more than friendship....this boy has set the standard of behavior so high that only a really great guy could ever live up to it. Because how will our daughter, after being treated with such kindness and respect, ever look favorably at anyone who fails to live up to this standard?
We owe a debt of gratitude to the nice boy from Texas. He has shown our daughter the way in which she deserves to be treated, and she likes it. We also owe quite a bit to his parents who have raised a son who is honest enough to not want to even email a girl behind her parents' backs and with the character to treat girls with respect instead of as objects.
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The world needs a lot more fine gentlemen like that young man there.
I just uttered a prayer that my son grows up to be a boy like that, and that my daughter meets and falls in love with one. What a lovely boy! And, truly, my husband and I courted over 800 miles away (after having met and been in each other's presence for only a few hours). We were engaged (after that little facetime- no joke) 2 weeks after our correspondence and phone time really began (we met in mid-April and began talking to one another in mid-May and engaged May 31st, then married privately June 17th. A little over a year later, when hubs graduated from college, we had a large ceremony and reception). We're heading towards 13 happy years. So, it happens. Who knows!
Ahhhh, with my penchant for both real manhood and matchmaking, this post speaks straight to my heart! Bless this boy and his parents!!
WOW.is.all.i.have.to.say.
This just made my day! And I will now be sharing it with friends with daughters....and sons! :)
my wife constantly reminds me that a woman will expect to be treated the way she has been treated by her father. I would suggest that, perhaps, it's the computer guy who was the first to "set the bar" for your #1.
Of course, it also sounds like this young man has met and exceeded that initial expectation! Well done, all around!
And not only that, dear friend, but your boys are seeing this, too...and absorbing it as something that gets a good reaction.
I think you should make them HAND write the correspondance. You could gift them nice (inexpensive) founatin pens, and get some stationery and make it happen the old fashion way.
This is awesome, and I think if you took it to the next step (no offense to computer guy) it would be much more meaningful, and they could keep the letters down the road.
I have found old letters that I had when I wrote a girl around that age, and it was nice to see what we wrote and how we were appropriate.
You could give a spiel about how if it is important to write one another, the effort of hand writing is even better :) Sure stamps are a little pricey, but again worth the effort right? :)
Awesome post, Im very happy for you all, such a blessing!
Wayne's wife is correct; however I will add to her thought: A woman will expect to be treated the way she was treated by her father AND by the way he treated her mother. There are always some exceptions, but I think, based on my experience and what I've seen, that's the norm.
Computer Guy has set and is setting the bar in his role as father and husband. So far, so good.
oh my gosh... this is AMAZING!
The email was truly amazing.
WOW that's beautiful! What an amazing young man! Stories like this truly lift my spirits and give me hope for our young people.
I'm Katie K's best friend of over eleven years, and I'm proud to say that's my adopted little bro! He's really a great guy and I'm proud to call him my adopted baby bro.
However, he was engaged to my sister first. ;)
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