Monday, April 4, 2011

Coming Around

Of all the girls in my little social circle growing up, I'm the only one who has more than one child.  They're all driven career women with big plans and goals, and those goals don't include a half dozen children. 

We're all still in contact with each other to varying degree.  Some talk weekly; some are only Christmas card friends.  On the rare occasion that we all get to see each other, we laugh and tease each other and fall back into childhood roles.  (I was the nerd, in case you wondered.)

Most of the ribbing I take is over the super-size of my family.  They just don't understand the life choices that the Computer Guy and I have made. They shake their heads in wonder over the fact that we would want to be so tied down.  I just smile, because I wouldn't trade places with them for anything.

Then this afternoon, I got a call from one of the girls.  "I'm pregnant," she told me. "6 1/2 weeks, so our baby will be 2 when the new one arrives.  Everyone else thinks I'm crazy, but I thought you......"

"I'm so thrilled!" I tried not to shriek in excitement. I know her medical history and how hard the first pregnancy was to achieve and carry......I know how worried she is, but I also know her joy.

"I owe you an apology." She told me. " I thought you were crazy for wanting so many babies, but I get it now.  The doctor hands you happiness wrapped up in a blanket."

"Does this mean you're aiming for six?"

"I'm getting too old for that, but we'll probably try to get as close as we can."

7 comments:

Lisa said...

Oh, what a wonderful (and life-affirming!!) phone call! I'm with you.. we only have 2 now, but whenever I think of all the happy hours and fun, alcohol-filled beach vacations, and SLEEP that I could be having now, I don't for a second regret this life I chose (and was chosen for me).

PS When will you be living in Texas officially? My family and in-laws are all up in the D/FW area...

Michele said...

AWESOME!!! What a great example you are!!!

Little JoAnn said...

Sweet as can be. I wish I would have met YOU when I was 30 or 35!

Cassi@FromaCatholicDaughter said...

Aww I'm so happy that you could be such a beautiful example and witness of a mother to your friend. It must feel lovely to be looked to in times like that

Michelle said...

That's so beautiful. What a great feeling it must have been and how beautiful for your friend, her husband and her children.

cathmom5 said...

My friends and family still think I'm crazy! There seems to be a rumor going around that I'm pregnant. I'm not. I don't know whether I'm happy or sad about it, but I'm not sure it is good for me to have a child so late in life. Anyway...great for your friend! Now you have an ally in your 'circle of friends'. God Bless.

Packrat said...

Awwww. How wonderful.

Smile, this is not an insult. I do think anyone with several children is crazy - only because I could have never have handled it. I will defend a woman's right to have as many children as she wants. Well, most women's rights. I'm not so thrilled to pay for welfare babies. HOWEVER (not shouting, just stressing), I would never deny the child the right to live, eat, and have a roof over his or her head.