Monday, January 23, 2012

The Pro-Life Thing You Should Start Doing Today (Even if You're Pro-Choice)

Today was the March for Life in Washington D.C. and thousands congregated in our nation's capital to show their support for the unborn among us and their mothers.  It wasn't just Washington which saw these huge crowds, although you wouldn't know it from the news coverage, thousands of marchers showed up in communities all over the country to speak out for the voiceless.


I love their passion and admire their dedication.  Every year I hope to be able to join them, and while it hasn't happened yet, I'm sure I'll get there someday.  In the meantime, I've found my own gentle protest, my own uprising against a culture which is trending against the value of children.  Where our country is hardening itself against the beauty of Life, I've made myself a quiet spokesperson.  Being a parent is difficult even in socially acceptable circumstances.  It can become defeating when it seems as if your beloved child is unwanted by the world.  So those of us who value the lives of these children should say so.  

Will you join me?

Will you smile at the mom in the grocery store, who is herself on the verge of tears, as her two year old melts down and she wants to hide in shame?  Will you look her in the eye and reassure her that this is temporary and that while this moment is bad that it does get easier?  Will you reach out to her and be the kind voice she so badly needs to hear?  Will you tell her that her screaming monster is beautiful?  Will you see past the noise and see their humanity?

Will you smile at the mother at the park whose child bears the unmistakeable signs of birth defects or genetic abnormalities?  Will you look at her baby, the one others avert their eyes to avoid seeing?  Will you see past what others see as ugliness and see the beautiful eyes that reflect his mother's love?  Will you comment on the beauty of his spirit and the lovely joyous lilt of his laugh?  Will you talk to her and listen...really listen to this woman whose choice to carry her baby has made her an outcast among most of the people she meets?

Will you smile at the mom whose family seems too large?  Will you see in her 12th baby the same beauty that you would have seen in her first?  Will you be kind in your words and greet them in the library check out line instead of impatiently sighing as each child must run her own books across the scanner?  Will you offer to hold the baby as she fumbles for her keys?  When they walk past you in a restaurant and tables must be moved to seat them all, will you compliment her on how lucky she is to be surround by all that love?  Will you see them for the family they are instead of the spectacle they easily become?

Will you smile at the mother whose child has been lost?  Will you remember to speak his name and not be afraid to bring him up?  Will you look at those heartbreaking photos from the day that he was born and see not the dead child she delivered but the living love she lost?  Will you remark on his sweet face and the beauty of his hands?  Will you allow her to still be his mother even though he's lost to her?  Will you be the one who sees the mother when just the woman is standing there?

Will you smile at the woman whose womb is empty still?  Will you be gentle in your joy as her own heart breaks in two?  Will you ignore the tears she tries to hide and yet hand her the tissue box?  Will you let her talk about it for as long as the ache is there?  Will you be the person who listens to her pain?  Will you wrap your arms around her and love her when it's hard?  Will you be the smile she needed to get her through this day and not be offended if she just can't look at you?


Will you be the person you want to be in the back of your own mind?  Will you be the kind and calm voice the word just aches to hear?  It's funny how the mean and cruel words are flung at us without a care, but the kind words are held close as though their cost were very dear.  So take the time to smile  at all the people you run into today.  It's the very smallest thing, and yet it can change so much in the life of someone who needs to see it.  This is what we are marching for, the beauty we say we protect.  If all life is valuable, then we should behave as if it were true.  Will you join my little campaign?  Will you smile at them?




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13 comments:

Nod said...

Ok, I'll start it off -- :D
God Bless ya!

Cassie said...

Brilliant.

Michele said...

Beautiful... As always

Paul, just this guy, you know? said...

Smile at the dads, too!

Anonymous said...

I ♥ you, Mom!

Maurisa said...

Love it! Shared it on Facebook. God bless you!

Sarah said...

Love this! My husband thought I was crazy when I asked him if he saw the twins in the store on Sunday evening and the fact that I knew that they were 8 months old and their mom was due with another child in 6 months. She just looked so tired and so I looked her in the eyes when she made eye contact with me and told her that things do change and get a little bit easier even if they seem hard right now and that started a conversation in which I could be an encouragement. I wish sometimes that others thought the way you do. I receive so many unkind looks and comments some days when I take my three to do errands. And now that I wrote a book, I will have to share on Facebook.

Anonymous said...

LOVE THIS! It seems to me if Jesus were walking the earth today He would be doing just these kinds of things. It can be hard to reach out to strangers and offer a kind word but you never know how much that kindness is needed in our cold world. -Loretta

Christine Falk Dalessio said...

This is breathtaking. And made me cry... especially the part which struck a personal chord, the one about the woman who has no child...
Thank you for this beauty.
And yes, I will share it...

WheelbarrowRider said...

Wow. YES!

Monica said...

Great post!

Hannah said...

Such a beautiful way of valuing life :) Shared with my university Catholic society (UK). As a sibling of adopted brothers with obvious special needs, thank you. they bring us much joy and I hate when people look at them with pity, look at them like the people they are. Beautiful.

sayin' i love you said...

Wow, this is beautiful!! I love it!! I´ll do it :)